For each installment of the 31 Days In The Life of A Single Working Mom series, I will feature an interview with a single working mom.
Each day in October, we will gain insights into the life of a single mom and specifically learn what she does to keep it all together and stay encouraged!
Today’s featured mom is Keisha M.
Tell us about yourself and your child(ren) (# of children, gender and ages).
I am a thirty-something mother of 3 kids ages 15 (boy), 9 (girl), 8 (girl). I am a woman of God and believe that He is guiding me to be the best mom that I can be. Being able to get out of an unhealthy relationship has allowed me to take a look at why I chose to participate in that, and because I have kids to be an example to, I decided to start an organization that educates young girls on the importance of having positive self-esteem.
Where do you live?
We live in Menifee, California.
What do you do for a living?
I am a supervisor for a child development center (a before and after-school program)
How do you fit blogging into the mix (if it’s not your “day job”)?
I have to schedule time on my day off to get it done.
How long have you been a single mom? What were the circumstances which lead you to become a single mom?
I have been divorced for almost 2 yrs but separated 6 months before that. I chose to separate from my husband because the relationship was not healthy.
Is your child(ren)’s father(s) involved; are you able to co-parent your child(ren)? What does that look like?
He is currently not supportive in anyway.
What is your typical day like?
I am a supervisor at my current job, so my work hours vary. Then when I get home, I have to help with homework, cook, and get everyone settled (showers, teeth brushing etc).
Weekends: we do things as a family (we clean up; hike; and go to whatever event we have going on)
How do you handle day to day responsibilities (meals, laundry, cleaning, chauffeuring kids, Dr. appointments, school meetings, etc.)?
I have learned to rely on my calendar, and am still trying of figure out how to really get a grip on our scheduling.
What’s the best thing about being a single mom? What’s the hardest thing?
The best thing about being a single mom is that I get to shape how my child views the world, and I get to give them the foundation of Christ by modeling how I love my life, and my expectations of myself and them.
The hardest thing is also that…I am the ONLY one they dependent on for their well-being.
What struggles do you experience as a single mom?
I struggle with guilt from time to time. I don’t believe it was ever meant to be this way (one parent raising a child) it’s not fair to the children. This is why I remind my kids that they should be intentional and aware of every decision that they make, good or bad they all have consequences.
Are you able to be vulnerable and authentic with anyone regarding the struggles of being a single mom If so, who and when?
YES! I believe I was put on this earth to set an awareness for women to remind them to pay attention to how you are representing yourself because if you have children they are dependent on you (not only financially), but mentally, physically and emotionally. They depend on you to show them an example of a healthy individual. That is why I started the organization Abundantly Authentic, to raise this very issue.
What one or two thing(s) keep you up at night?
The one thing that keeps me up at night is wanting to make sure that I am walking into what God has called me to be.
Are you currently dating or in a relationship?
No, I’m not dating or in a relationship at this time.
Would you like to be married?
Yes, I do see marriage in my future one day. My marriage will be different this time. I am depending on God to show me how to be the woman He needs me to be for my future husband, so that I may able to model a healthy relationship for myself and my kids.
Do you ever get lonely? If so, when and what do you do about it?
Yes I get lonely sometimes. But I get through it by remembering that my time will come to be in a relationship. I remember my standards, and try to stay focused on my purpose. And being honest with myself about the fact that I am in NO WAY ready to be in a relationship
What do you miss most about being in a relationship or marriage (if you were married)?
I guess I miss the companionship and the physical aspect (cuddling, hugging, sitting next to my husband, holding his hand) of being in a relationship.
What are your top 3(or more) tips for keeping everything together?
Putting God first
Taking a break from time to time
If you believe in prayer, what three things do you pray about regularly?
YES I believe in prayer, the 3 things I pray for regularly are:
God to continue to guide my life (so I can be an example of what a woman of God looks like)
For my children to know God and keep Him in their hearts for guidance and protection)
I thank Him for my past (what I have learned), my present (being able to enjoy), and my future (for the preparation)
What are your dreams for yourself and for your children?
My dreams are for us to travel and to be an example for others.
What one lesson do you want your child(ren) to learn from your journey as a single mom?
I want my children to learn that ” through Christ all things are possible”!
To be very intentional in their life about everything, to keep Him first, that you are valued, and you have a gift to offer the world. That if they make a mistake it’s ok, that life can be tough at times, but please don’t give up!
Is there anything else you’d like to add that you think would encourage other single moms?
I would tell a single mom that may be struggling that she has been given the opportunity to be an example for her children and to not get discouraged!
Where to find Keisha M. online:
Blog: www.abundantlyauthentic.com gives encouragement to women.
What tips or words of wisdom from Keisha’s journey, did you find helpful to use in your own journey?
Let me know in the comments below. If you have an extra moment, head over to Keisha’s website and show her some love!
If YOU would like to be featured, send an email to LC@alifeofauthenticity.com. If all of the October spots have been filled, I will feature your interview in a continued series.