For each installment of the 31 Days In The Life of A Single Working Mom series, I will feature an interview with a single working mom.
Each day in October, we will gain insights into the life of a single mom and specifically learn what she does to keep it all together and stay encouraged!
Today’s featured mom is Tracie.
Tell us about yourself and your child(ren) (# of children, gender and ages).
I’m a forty-something mom of 2 children; 1 son age 15, and 1 daughter age 13.
Where do you live?
We live in the suburbs of Raleigh, North Carolina.
What do you do for a living?
Project Management for Sourcing
How long have you been a single mom? What were the circumstances which lead you to become a single mom?
I’ve been a single mom since my ex and I separated in 2007. We later got a divorce in 2008.
Is your child(ren)’s father(s) involved; are you able to co-parent your child(ren)? What does that look like?
Yes, their father is involved. We co-parent well for the most part. We happen to share custody 50/50 so there are few disagreements. He handles things at his home, and I handle things at mine.
What is your typical day like?
My typical day begins around 5am making sure that everyone gets to school. I work from home 3-4 days each week which makes it a bit easier to handle carpool (daughter does not ride the bus to/from school as she’s a transfer student). Some days I manage to even squeeze in some physical activity. Dinner is usually either salads, a crockpot meal, or even a bowl of cereal. The children are old enough to get themselves ready for bed so I go to bed whenever I get tired.
How do you handle day to day responsibilities (meals, laundry, cleaning, chauffeuring kids, Dr. appointments, school meetings, etc.)?
Everything has to be on my calendar. If it’s not on my calendar, it probably won’t happen. Honestly, their father and I communicate fairly well with this. I also have support from both sets of grandparents if needed.
What’s the best thing about being a single mom? What’s the hardest thing?
The best thing about being a single mom, or a mom in general, has to be the moments/memories that we create together. I can have the worst day at the office, and I’m in tears laughing within 5 minutes of spending time with my children. The hardest thing can sometimes be getting alone time in order to recharge.
What struggles do you experience as a single mom?
Most of my struggles are financial; I’m still recovering from the divorce.
Are you able to be vulnerable and authentic with anyone regarding the struggles of being a single mom If so, who and when?
Yes, I’m able to be vulnerable and authentic with other single mothers. They understand.
What one or two thing(s) keep you up at night?
I worry most about not being able to support my children for whatever reason, whether it be because of health, finances or whatever.
Are you currently dating or in a relationship?
I am currently in a relationship.
Would you like to be married?
I would LOVE to get married again.
If you are dating or in a relationship, how do you fit your partner into your presumably busy life?
We spend time together mostly on the weekends – sometimes when the children are home, sometimes when they are not.
When (if ever) do/did you introduce your kids to your significant other?
I introduced my significant other when there was an activity that I wanted to attend with him on a weekend they happened to be at home. They are older now so they are much more understanding of Mom dating. It also helps that their father has remarried. They don’t want Mom to be lonely.
Do you ever get lonely? If so, when and what do you do about it?
At times I get lonely. When I do, I usually end up reading or watching a comedy or calling a friend to hang out.
What do you miss most about being in a relationship or marriage (if you were married)?
I miss having my partner in the home with me every day. I am in a relationship so I’m able to share my days with someone, but there’s just something about coming home to them in the evening.
What are your top 3(or more) tips for keeping everything together?
- Focus on the things that are most important at the moment.
- Ask for help.
- Remember to have fun and laugh through even the painful times.
If you believe in prayer, what three things do you pray about regularly?
I pray for my children’s safety and health, my parents’ health, my health, my sanity, my finances.
What are your dreams for yourself and for your children?
I want my children to have fond memories of their childhood. I want them to happy, productive, self-supporting citizens who are just genuinely good people.
What one lesson do you want your child(ren) to learn from your journey as a single mom?
Perseverance is key.
Is there anything else you’d like to add that you think would encourage other single moms?
Please remember to find joy in the simplest of things, because time passes by so fast. Remember to smile and laugh and not to sweat the small stuff.
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What tips or words of wisdom from Tracie’s journey, did you find helpful to use in your own journey?
If YOU would like to be featured, send an email to LC@alifeofauthenticity.com. If all of the October spots have been filled, I will feature your interview in a continued series.