For each installment of the 31 Days In The Life of A Single Working Mom series, I will feature an interview with a single working mom.
Each day in October, we will gain insights into the life of a single mom and specifically learn what she does to keep it all together and stay encouraged!
Today’s featured mom is Stephanie.
Tell us about yourself and your child(ren) (# of children, gender and ages).
I am a forty-something, single mom of a 20-year-old daughter. Never married. Enjoy home projects, bowling, hanging with friends. My educational and work background is in Finance.
Where do you live?
What do you do for a living?
Do you have a blog or a “side hustle”? How do you fit either into the mix?
I have a full-service event planning business. Let’s Imagine This.
How long have you been a single mom? What were the circumstances which lead you to become a single mom?
I have been a single mom since giving birth to my daughter. When I met my daughter father, things progressed really quickly and we never got the opportunity to nurture our relationship. It was more LUST than Love. Our physical attraction for each other was strong, but our emotional compatibility was not. I decided that I did not want my child to grow up with the relationship I had with her father as the model for how relationships should be. I decided that it was best that we co-parent from different homes.
Is your child(ren)’s father(s) involved; are you able to co-parent your child(ren)? What does that look like?
He was an involved dad, as long as his schedule wasn’t interrupted.
What is your typical day like?
Get up, walk the dog, got to work, come home, walk the dog, work some more, watch a little tv, go to bed. Sometimes leave my full-time job to go to a second job.
How do you handle day to day responsibilities (meals, laundry, cleaning, chauffeuring kids, Dr. appointments, school meetings, etc.)?
I purchase my child a car, so I am no longer a chauffeur. I cook for the week and throw a load of clothes in on Saturday.
What’s the best thing about being a single mom? What’s the hardest thing?
The best thing is nurturing someone to be a caring and kind human being. Hardest thing is being concerned about her safety.
What struggles do you experience as a single mom?
Paying for college tuition and still making the sacrifices.
Are you able to be vulnerable and authentic with anyone regarding the struggles of being a single mom? If so, who and when?
Yes. My sisters, my friends. Daily.
What one or two thing(s) keep you up at night?
Praying the she is safe and continues to make the best choices for her life.
Are you currently dating or in a relationship?
Would you like to be married?
Do you ever get lonely? If so, when and what do you do about it?
Sometimes, but then I play with my dog.
What do you miss most about being in a relationship or marriage (if you were married)?
I miss having a companion to go to events with and I miss SEX.
What are your top 3(or more) tips for keeping everything together?
Pray, Believe and Love.
If you believe in prayer, what three things do you pray about regularly?
Health and safety.
What are your dreams for yourself and for your children?
To live a fulfilling and happy life.
What one lesson do you want your child(ren) to learn from your journey as a single mom?
That anything is possible through Jesus Christ. He is the Savior and to always trust in him. People will disappoint, but he never will.
Is there anything else you’d like to add that you think would encourage other single moms?
Set goals for yourself and your children, and be the example you want your children to follow.
What tips or words of wisdom from Stephanie’s journey, did you find helpful to use in your own journey?
Oh, and if YOU are a single working mom, who would like to be featured, send an email to LC@alifeofauthenticity.com. If all of the October spots have been filled, I will feature your interview in a continued series.