For each installment of the 31 Days In The Life of A Single Working Mom series, I will feature an interview with a single working mom.
Each day in October, we will gain insights into the life of a single mom and specifically learn what she does to keep it all together and stay encouraged!
Today’s featured mom is Stacy.
Tell us about yourself and your child(ren) (# of children, gender and ages).
I am a 40 something, single mom of two children, Joshua age 14 and Skyla age 9.
Where do you live?
We live in central NC.
What do you do for a living?
I am an educator.
How long have you been a single mom? What were the circumstances which lead you to become a single mom?
I have been a single mom for 6 years. At the time, my son’s father didn’t want to be a part of his life any more and my daughter’s father and I broke up.
Is your child(ren)’s father(s) involved; are you able to co-parent your child(ren)? What does that look like?
I am able to co-parent in part with my daughter’s father, but he lives in New York. I’m not able to co-parent with my son’s father. He doesn’t want to be a part of our lives anymore.
What is your typical day like?
My day is busy. Moving from place to place, juggling personal life, relationship, children’s lives and work.
How do you handle day to day responsibilities (meals, laundry, cleaning, chauffeuring kids, Dr. appointments, school meetings, etc.)?
I manage to handle them on a weekly schedule. Certain tasks are completed on certain days. Until life happens, while I’m making plans.
What’s the best thing about being a single mom? What’s the hardest thing?
I love my children and they’re the best gifts I’ve been given in life. My worse nightmare came true when I became a single mom. I had no expectation of raising two children alone and by myself.
What struggles do you experience as a single mom?
The everyday struggles of balancing life, at the same time, trying to make everything happen for everyone.
Are you able to be vulnerable and authentic with anyone regarding the struggles of being a single mom? If so, who and when?
Yes, my best friend and my boyfriend at night when my children are asleep.
What one or two thing(s) keep you up at night?
Worrying about how things are going to be taking care of. How I’m going to get everything done and make everyone happy, including myself.
Are you currently dating or in a relationship?
Would you like to be married?
If you are dating or in a relationship, how do you fit your partner into your presumably busy life?
He has two children of his own and he works at night. We speak to each other every night during his break time and we see each other every weekend.
When (if ever) do/did you introduce your kids to your significant other?
No. Not yet.
Do you ever get lonely? If so, when and what do you do about it?
Sometimes, when he’s visiting his children in VA. Those are weekends we want see each other.
What do you miss most about being in a relationship or marriage (if you were married)?
The consistent presence of a man in my home. A loving and caring relationship with someone who loves me back. Adult conversations.
What are your top 3(or more) tips for keeping everything together?
Prayer Balance Healthy Relationships
If you believe in prayer, what three things do you pray about regularly?
My life, my boyfriend’s life and family and my children’s life and extended family.
What are your dreams for yourself and for your children?
I would like to go back to school to advance my career and to work for myself with a stable and substantial flow of income. I would also like to see my children get a college degree debt free.
What one lesson do you want your child(ren) to learn from your journey as a single mom?
Find a partner to spend your life with forever. Life is better lives with someone special, than without.
Is there anything else you’d like to add that you think would encourage other single moms?
Pray for your mate, keep the faith never give up on you and never let your dreams die.
What tips or words of wisdom from Stacy’s journey, did you find helpful to use in your own journey?
If YOU would like to be featured, send an email to LC@alifeofauthenticity.com. If all of the October spots have been filled, I will feature your interview in a continued series.