I previously wrote a post about delegating household chores to your child. My intent was to empower parents to think outside the box and to offload some of the heavy-lifting we bear as parents by passing some of that onto our children.
I also wanted to encourage you to give your children some responsibilities. Things that you had an expectation of them completing without your assistance!
They would then learn how to be more independent and self-sufficient. These are life long lessons being taught here! ;0)
However, I received quite a few comments in which parents talked about the lessons their children learned from receiving an allowance for completing chores.
I did not mention an allowance in that initial post for a reason. The intent was not to teach my child how to earn money.
Assigning your child age appropriate chores gives them an opportunity to do their part as a member of the family.
For that reason, I don’t ascribe to the blanket statement that if my child does household chores he should receive an allowance.
No, Sir!! Not in my household!!
That may rub some parents the wrong way, but I have certain expectations of my children to perform household chores as a member of the family that does not entitle them to a reward, or an allowance.
Heck, I don’t get an allowance for cooking dinner every night or parenting my children every day.
It is my J.O.B. as their mother. And so it is their J.O.B. as a member of the family to do certain chores.
My children will not get an allowance for doing the household chores that are required to maintain the household and keep the family functioning as a unit! (Yes, that arguably could be anything! I agree my definition is a bit fluid and you may choose to set different standards.)
But in my household, if the task is personal to me or I would otherwise pay a third party to perform the task, then if my child performs the chore he/she would get paid instead.
Everything else is done for FREE!!
Here is my list of Allowance Worthy Chores:
- Washing & vacuuming the car
- Babysitting your sibling more than two times/week
- Yardwork (mowing/watering the lawn)
- Cleaning windows & window sills
- Vacuuming the house
- Cleaning the garage
- Mopping floors
- Shredding personal papers
- Cutting and sorting coupons
- Cleaning baseboards
What’s not allowance worthy:
- Cleaning your bedroom or playroom (includes putting away toys, making the bed and vacuuming)
- Set & clear table
- Sweeping floors
- Taking out the trash
- Doing your laundry (there is no expectation of my children to do my laundry)
- Cleaning bathrooms
- Caring for pet (includes walking, feeding, changing the litter box)
- Doing the dishes
- Putting away groceries and organizing the pantry
- Occasionally babysitting your sibling (sure you did not choose to become an older sibling but it is the responsibility of the older sibling to care for the younger ones….Family Rules!)
I realize that the list of allowance worthy chores don’t allow my kids to earn easy money!!
That’s because there is No.Such.Thing!
And that is the ultimate lesson.
Let me know what your thoughts are on chores and giving your kids an allowance for completing them!!
I’d love to hear from you!!